Firstly you need a window manager or desktop environment.
If you want to install Gnome or KDE you can install the entire packages like so..
Code:
apt-get install kubuntu-desktop
or for gnome..
Code:
apt-get install gnome-desktop
You can install just the basics for gnome using the following..
Code:
apt-get install gnome-core
If you choose gnome I can help more because I have experience with it.
You may also want to choose a more lightweight desktop environment such as xfce or fluxbox.
Code:
apt-get install xfce4
OR
Code:
apt-get install xfce
OR
Code:
apt-get install fluxbox
You should install vnc4server rather than realvncserver. It offers much easier way to load up a desktop session.
Once you have setup your desktop environment you need to edit
/root/.vnc/xstartup
You can then start the gnome session with
Remember the above is just a basic guide and it may need changes for your distribution or preferences. You can contact me via IM if you need further help. Get all my details here...
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